How do you take the bachelor out of a husband?
So, my husband and I have hardly lived together... but the last time we spent an extended amount of time together, my in-laws were here and the house was all tidied up before I even arrived so I basically had to maintain it and just make changes...
This time I came, things were kind of neat... but there were things that needed a lot of work... like dishes were still in the sink and some of 'em were beginning to stink and the sponge probably had a life of its own! LOL
So anyhow, I took care of that first hurdle and my poor hubby had already cooked so everything was going well... After that, we went on our delayed honeymoon for a week.
And now we're back and supposed to be moving out of this apartment and moving to a place that's 4 hrs away... and, the apartment is a mess and I am superbly overwhelmed!
And guess what? There's dishes and empty wrappers, receipts, labels and all sorts of stuff all over the place i.e. the kind of stuff that drives me nuts... I guess because I'm not used to this!
I'm not usually a very tidy person but my mess consists of just clothes and books... here, it's things that are actually going bad :S
I feel like it's a scene from one of those movies where they show a teenager who discovers a month old slice of pizza from under their bed! hehe
So yeah, I'm at a loss for how to deal with this... I don't want to sound naggy but at the same time I can't tolerate all of this nor figure out what to do...
I'll clean up and help hubby out and take care of some domains of the household... but then I've got to draw the line somewhere, right?
I've told my hubby that I'll take care of the dishes, but he's GOT to leave his in the sink... god, I washed/rinsed some dishes before we left... thinking that they were all... We just got back yesterday and I discovered that there was a pile of bowls and empty wrappers that we under our coffee table so I totally missed 'em! Sigh.
Alhamdulillah I have an awesome husband but he's got these 'bachelor days' habits and I don't know how to deal with all of this. So don't get me wrong... he is helpful and usually does more than I and we've all got quirks... but like I said, some kinds of messes just make me cringe... so how do I fix this?
Any ideas, please?
Because we're at this point, sitting in separate rooms and not even really talking because we're both so overwhelmed :(
I still love him to death, I just need a creative solution.
Where does a wife draw the line?
Peace.
2 comments:
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welcome to the club samar! I"m 13 yrs and going and I'm STILL dealing with bachelor days habit. Trust me, they will still retain those bachelor days habit, somewhat.
now, you just need to talk about it and if you want to divide housechore responsibilities, do that. Best thing to do is talk about it..sit down, make a shceuld if you want..
as for where a wife draws the line...
ask him what chores he'd like to do and if you have some pet peeves tell him so he knows what irks you, and what you need help with
diffent couples handle it diffetn ways handle differntly but talking about it and agreeing to something is the first step ....
HUGS :D
Alhamdulillah we talked about it shortly after and we both discussed how we've never been married before and so it's gonna continue to take some time.
I've told him for now that it'll help me if he'll only at least put the dishes in the sink, as opposed to me hunting all over for them LOL.
The good thing about him is that he really wants to try, alhamdulillah :)
Jazaak Allah khayr for the advice, it really helps because I'm so new at this still :P
Big hugs to u too!
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