Top: The view of the shoreline from the airplane
Middle: Charleston, SC. USS Yorktown Aircraft Carrier
Bottom: On board the aircraft carrier's airplane hangar
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
We (mom n i) went to SC to see hubby
Top: The view of the shoreline from the airplane
Middle: Charleston, SC. USS Yorktown Aircraft Carrier
Bottom: On board the aircraft carrier's airplane hangar
On long distance relationships...
Long distance relationships can be really tough :(
My husband and I have been married for 3 months, almost, and so it hasn't been much of a relationship but it's difficult that he lives in a state that is an 11 hr drive from here and so we can't easily see each other.
School is the reason why I am still living at home with the parents... but sometimes balancing everything gets very difficult... especially when you have this deep longing to be with the person you love.
It's really tough some days, but especially due to the fact that he has absolutely NO ONE where he lives... he has no friends or anyone in that place :(
There aren't even any other muslims that he can befriend... and so when he gets home from work, it's basically him and his walls that eat, talk and sleep together.
My husband and I have been married for 3 months, almost, and so it hasn't been much of a relationship but it's difficult that he lives in a state that is an 11 hr drive from here and so we can't easily see each other.
School is the reason why I am still living at home with the parents... but sometimes balancing everything gets very difficult... especially when you have this deep longing to be with the person you love.
It's really tough some days, but especially due to the fact that he has absolutely NO ONE where he lives... he has no friends or anyone in that place :(
There aren't even any other muslims that he can befriend... and so when he gets home from work, it's basically him and his walls that eat, talk and sleep together.
A's visit here... Nov 26-- Dec 1st
We had an awesome time... he finally had the chance to sit with my family and relatives in a more relaxed environment.
Also, him and I had been married over a month and so we were pretty much at ease on his trip here... thankfully!
The night before he came, I had been soooo nervous because school had kept me bz and i had hardly had any time to properly clean up the room that he was to stay in, or anything!
So, I ended up skipping a day of school and finished cleaning up within seconds of him walking through the front door.
I was actually putting the final touches on some lentil soup when my dad knocked on the door (my dad had gone to pick him from the airport).
The trip was amazing, but too short... we were running around going from one party to another... plus, the weather was kinda icky and i caught a fever :(
But overall things went well... and though we had to cancel our own dinner plans, initially, to accommodate another dinner party, that ended up getting canceled because the hosts (my uncle's wife & her niece that's staying with them) got strep throat... so, eventually, my hubby, A, and I ended up going back to our original plan and had a fun night :)
Also, him and I had been married over a month and so we were pretty much at ease on his trip here... thankfully!
The night before he came, I had been soooo nervous because school had kept me bz and i had hardly had any time to properly clean up the room that he was to stay in, or anything!
So, I ended up skipping a day of school and finished cleaning up within seconds of him walking through the front door.
I was actually putting the final touches on some lentil soup when my dad knocked on the door (my dad had gone to pick him from the airport).
The trip was amazing, but too short... we were running around going from one party to another... plus, the weather was kinda icky and i caught a fever :(
But overall things went well... and though we had to cancel our own dinner plans, initially, to accommodate another dinner party, that ended up getting canceled because the hosts (my uncle's wife & her niece that's staying with them) got strep throat... so, eventually, my hubby, A, and I ended up going back to our original plan and had a fun night :)
Friday, November 14, 2008
We just celebrated one month, alhamdulillah!
Time truly flies... I'm still in disbelief about being married... sort of, at least!
And wow... it's like it's already been a month.
The wedding went absolutely smoothly, even though so many things kept coming up last second... but really, alhamdulillah (All Praise to God) everything went perfectly.
And since everybody had basically come for the weekend, we didn't have to stress to clean everything up in a hurry... people came, attended and left pretty much the next day and so we had the chance to take things slowly one at a time and then tidy up.
A lot of other unfortunate events happened the week after the wedding but we've been able to handle them and pull through alright :D
There's sooo many things that I'm grateful to God for... alhamdulillah... really, we have all been blessed in sooo many ways.
And wow... it's like it's already been a month.
The wedding went absolutely smoothly, even though so many things kept coming up last second... but really, alhamdulillah (All Praise to God) everything went perfectly.
And since everybody had basically come for the weekend, we didn't have to stress to clean everything up in a hurry... people came, attended and left pretty much the next day and so we had the chance to take things slowly one at a time and then tidy up.
A lot of other unfortunate events happened the week after the wedding but we've been able to handle them and pull through alright :D
There's sooo many things that I'm grateful to God for... alhamdulillah... really, we have all been blessed in sooo many ways.
Friday, October 3, 2008
Presents all around...
We celebrated the religious holiday of Eid Al-Fitr on Wednesday (it comes after Ramadaan) and so my sister and I decided to get together and buy my paternal grandmother a ring as a present for her, on this festive occasion.
We went to Kay Jewelers, and were extremely short on time, but managed to buy a diamond ring for my grandma and also I ended up buying a marquis-cut emerald ring for my mom (unfortunately, I am currently jobless and so don't have much money and so I ended up buying my mom a lab-created emerald as opposed to a naturally-occurring one, which was a little over 300 bucks =( )
Mom knew that we were buying a ring for my grandma, but my grandma did not know. And my mom had no clue that I was buying her a ring...
So alhamdulillah when we got home, everyone was pleasantly surprised!
Mom's ring:
We went to Kay Jewelers, and were extremely short on time, but managed to buy a diamond ring for my grandma and also I ended up buying a marquis-cut emerald ring for my mom (unfortunately, I am currently jobless and so don't have much money and so I ended up buying my mom a lab-created emerald as opposed to a naturally-occurring one, which was a little over 300 bucks =( )
Mom knew that we were buying a ring for my grandma, but my grandma did not know. And my mom had no clue that I was buying her a ring...
So alhamdulillah when we got home, everyone was pleasantly surprised!
Mom's ring:
Monday, September 29, 2008
Another ring :)
My sister bought me my wedding present today, and it was supposed to be a surprise.
But she told my paternal grandma about it and showed her the ring, while I was away at school.
Then, my sister went off to work and when I came back from school, my paternal grandmother (who is hard of hearing), hadn't realized that the present was supposed to be a surprise, and told me all about it!
The only thing that I did not know was, what kind of ring it was... she said that it had a black 'stone' or something on it...
That got me thinking... what could it be?
So eventually when my sis got home, my grandmother told her, "I already gave her the good news!"... my sister was terribly disappointed, but we didn't make it apparent to my poor grandmother.
Anyways, so my sister decided to give me the ring today as there was no point in hiding it :(
I found out the ring had a black pearl, surrounded by little diamonds on the side! i totally loooove it, alhamdulillah! And, I was, pleasantly surprised!
I'm very picky when it comes to pearls... i don't like white/cream pearls that much... I totally love black pearls, but still... I'm picky about the kind of pearl rings that are out there... I've got to say, my sister did an excellent job!
I couldn't have done better myself, masha'Allah!
So, above is a picture of the ring, from the retailer's website... this ring is slightly less expensive online than it was in-store... don't know why! And so I don't really know how much she paid for it...
Also, the ring itself is way better than what it looks like in the picture... The ring is far more delicate... the diamonds are also smaller and not very flashy, which I love! Because, believe me, I have myself a flashy diamond ring! (my wedding ring)
But she told my paternal grandma about it and showed her the ring, while I was away at school.
Then, my sister went off to work and when I came back from school, my paternal grandmother (who is hard of hearing), hadn't realized that the present was supposed to be a surprise, and told me all about it!
The only thing that I did not know was, what kind of ring it was... she said that it had a black 'stone' or something on it...
That got me thinking... what could it be?
So eventually when my sis got home, my grandmother told her, "I already gave her the good news!"... my sister was terribly disappointed, but we didn't make it apparent to my poor grandmother.
Anyways, so my sister decided to give me the ring today as there was no point in hiding it :(
I found out the ring had a black pearl, surrounded by little diamonds on the side! i totally loooove it, alhamdulillah! And, I was, pleasantly surprised!
I'm very picky when it comes to pearls... i don't like white/cream pearls that much... I totally love black pearls, but still... I'm picky about the kind of pearl rings that are out there... I've got to say, my sister did an excellent job!
I couldn't have done better myself, masha'Allah!
So, above is a picture of the ring, from the retailer's website... this ring is slightly less expensive online than it was in-store... don't know why! And so I don't really know how much she paid for it...
Also, the ring itself is way better than what it looks like in the picture... The ring is far more delicate... the diamonds are also smaller and not very flashy, which I love! Because, believe me, I have myself a flashy diamond ring! (my wedding ring)
Sunday, September 28, 2008
Bad day...
(continued)
I had bought some awesome cards to print our invites on (they were black, red and cream in color... very pretty though), but my dad went ahead and had cards printed from a customer of his who works in the business...
Problem is, i HATE HATE HATE the cards... 'A' apparently liked them... but I had already picked out the type that I wanted and now I'm stuck :(
So dad actually went and returned the cards that I had, and so we're gonna have to stick with his...
Also, the cards that I picked out were 1/4 of the price of the ones that my dad bought!
Sigh... can't do anything though :(
I had bought some awesome cards to print our invites on (they were black, red and cream in color... very pretty though), but my dad went ahead and had cards printed from a customer of his who works in the business...
Problem is, i HATE HATE HATE the cards... 'A' apparently liked them... but I had already picked out the type that I wanted and now I'm stuck :(
So dad actually went and returned the cards that I had, and so we're gonna have to stick with his...
Also, the cards that I picked out were 1/4 of the price of the ones that my dad bought!
Sigh... can't do anything though :(
Bad day + happiness
I found out last night that, alhamdulillah, people are actually buying things off my bridal registry. One person told my mom that she had bought me a blender (she told her in confidence, anyways) and that she loved the items on my registry because they were so practical and affordable :D
I was really happy, because when I had made the registry I thought that no one would really buy off of it. The reason for that was, traditionally, guests give clothes, jewelry and sometimes money as a wedding present.
Anyways, so when I got home last night and checked my registry, I found out that four items had been bought off of it! Wow! So I know for sure that I'm getting a blender, sandwich maker, rice cooker and an electric kettle :)
Alhamdulillah... well anyways, so I just went online, like 2 second ago, and found out that someone bought a comforter set off of the registry too! All of this makes me really happy because I'm really happy there's people out there who actually are willing to spend that kind of money on me... it's a special kind of feeling! I am really grateful to Allah.
[to be continued...]
I was really happy, because when I had made the registry I thought that no one would really buy off of it. The reason for that was, traditionally, guests give clothes, jewelry and sometimes money as a wedding present.
Anyways, so when I got home last night and checked my registry, I found out that four items had been bought off of it! Wow! So I know for sure that I'm getting a blender, sandwich maker, rice cooker and an electric kettle :)
Alhamdulillah... well anyways, so I just went online, like 2 second ago, and found out that someone bought a comforter set off of the registry too! All of this makes me really happy because I'm really happy there's people out there who actually are willing to spend that kind of money on me... it's a special kind of feeling! I am really grateful to Allah.
[to be continued...]
My Clothes...
My grandma came from India on August 27th and she brought along with her some clothes that we had my uncle's wife get stitched for me.
In our tradition, the mother of the bride gives the bride any odd number of outfits... a lot of times it is 25 outfits... LOL... my mom got 10 new outfits made for me, clearly we're not very traditional...
I also got 3 new outfits as a present from my uncles in India and so that made a total of 13 new outfits... my aunt was nice enough to even put in matching bangles with a lot of the clothing!
And, she even packed all the outfits in plastic, making them look store-bought as opposed to tailor-made! But they were amazing... We were very happy with the job she had done :)
Alhamdulillah... above are some pics of the outfits, my cousin e-mailed these to me while she was packing up all the clothes with my aunt and her sister.
Oh, and I do not know what I'm going to be wearing on my wedding day... I mean I know what the outfit 'is' (it's a "lehnga"... google image it :) ), but I have not seen it.
The reason for that is because of another tradition... wear his family will buy my clothes and my family buys his :)
Nowadays, people usually just give each others' families money to go and get an outfit made with it, so that the bride and groom get to wear what they, themselves, picked out... my mother-in-law-to-be had asked if we wanted to get the outfit made here or if she should get it made there... my mom opted to have them get it made there, because to get a traditional dress over here it's firstly very expensive, and secondly, you end up paying for something that is not even comparable to what you could get back in Pakistan for the same price.
So, yeah, my outfit is coming from Pakistan! All I know about it is that it's the color 'tea-pink', which u shd google too... because i describe the color as a 'grayish pink', which my sister finds to be absurd! haha
We have bought his suit, tie and shirt for him too :p (i only picked out the tie, because i ended up not going to the mall the day my parents went... but i was happy with their choice, nonetheless... thankfully, they've got good taste!)
So insha'Allah we'll both love our in-laws' choice for the both of us :)
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
Marriage License
We just filled out the form to obtain a marriage license today...
so yeah, it's getting really close now!
And i'm a little nervous, but alhamdulillah doing better than before :)
I did sort of 'gasp' when I realized today how little time there is and when we submitted the marriage license form today to the Probate Court over here...
Wow!
so yeah, it's getting really close now!
And i'm a little nervous, but alhamdulillah doing better than before :)
I did sort of 'gasp' when I realized today how little time there is and when we submitted the marriage license form today to the Probate Court over here...
Wow!
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
My mom's gift to me...
A Mikasa China Dinnerware Set, Alhamdulillah...
(I'll be honest, we got a good deal on it!)
They're Coming...
'A's parents arrive here on the night of Thursday, October 9th... insha'Allah.
We have booked a hotel room for them at a local Holiday Inn.
I am also going to see my wedding outfit when they arrive here to attend the wedding :(
Traditionally, the groom's parents buy the bride's outfit and the bride's parents buy the groom's outfit.
Alhamdulillah, we bought a black suit with really thin, blue pinstripes on it... and we bought a charcoal shirt with a gray tie that has very thin pink and purple stripes on it... it's not feminine! believe me... but the tie is my most favorite item of the whole ensemble :)
I picked that out... we had gotten something else earlier... but when we brought it home, all of us agreed that it looked really dully :S and so it went back.
All i've bought for myself is shooooes :) ... I got 2 pairs for $59 bucks, which apparently is a steal! i went to every store possible but refused to pay so much for a pair of shoes... but then this store had a sale and so i finally had to commit! :)
Alhamdulillah...
Now, I'm just curious to see what kind of outfit my mom-in-law-to-be, picked out for me! She said that it's come back from the tailor and that it looks AMAZING and that she really hopes that we'll love it too...
LOL.. i really hope so too :P... all i know is, that it's "tea pink" in color with golden "kaam" (or 'work') on it.
Lets see :)
Oh, and I'm having my photography teacher do portraits for the wedding... alhamdulillah she's getting us a good deal.
This was supposed to be an extremely small event but now my paternal grandma is here from India... and "A"'s parents are also coming... plus, i have a lot of other relatives coming from other places and so we decided to try our best to still keep costs down, but to do things properly.
We have booked a hotel room for them at a local Holiday Inn.
I am also going to see my wedding outfit when they arrive here to attend the wedding :(
Traditionally, the groom's parents buy the bride's outfit and the bride's parents buy the groom's outfit.
Alhamdulillah, we bought a black suit with really thin, blue pinstripes on it... and we bought a charcoal shirt with a gray tie that has very thin pink and purple stripes on it... it's not feminine! believe me... but the tie is my most favorite item of the whole ensemble :)
I picked that out... we had gotten something else earlier... but when we brought it home, all of us agreed that it looked really dully :S and so it went back.
All i've bought for myself is shooooes :) ... I got 2 pairs for $59 bucks, which apparently is a steal! i went to every store possible but refused to pay so much for a pair of shoes... but then this store had a sale and so i finally had to commit! :)
Alhamdulillah...
Now, I'm just curious to see what kind of outfit my mom-in-law-to-be, picked out for me! She said that it's come back from the tailor and that it looks AMAZING and that she really hopes that we'll love it too...
LOL.. i really hope so too :P... all i know is, that it's "tea pink" in color with golden "kaam" (or 'work') on it.
Lets see :)
Oh, and I'm having my photography teacher do portraits for the wedding... alhamdulillah she's getting us a good deal.
This was supposed to be an extremely small event but now my paternal grandma is here from India... and "A"'s parents are also coming... plus, i have a lot of other relatives coming from other places and so we decided to try our best to still keep costs down, but to do things properly.
To Be Wed...
'A' and I are going to be wed on October 11th, 2008... insha'Allah...
which is extremely near!
I am going to continue to live with my parents, even after the wedding, until at least the Summer of '09 because I have yet to graduate and get my Bachelor's Degree.
Earlier, "A"'s parents weren't about to come to the wedding... but the sons 'A' and his elder bro 'R' had already earlier in year made plans to go to Pakistan to visit the parents, and so had saved up for a ticket... once the wedding plans came into existance, they decided to send their parents a ticket each, to come... instead of them using the same amount of money to go there.
They were like, they knew that their parents really wanted to be here for the wedding.
Gosh! there's so much that one can write about... but so little time, nor patience!
I mean there's so many 'firsts' that come with weddings...
for one, I'm going to be the first daughter-in-law in 'A's whole entire family!!!
Other firsts...
* talking to my mom-in-law-to-be for the first time... I had no idea what the proper etiquettes to such a conversation were... (my mom just said don't talk too much, and don't laugh out loud!) LOL
* talked to my dad-in-law-to-be unexpectedly
* i have a wedding registry now
www.macysweddingchannel.com
* i got my first diamond ring... (and i did not opt to get a solitaire... i've got ugly chubby fingers :S )
* i'm actually furnishing an apartment that i don't even live in!
Oh, and there's so much more! i don't even know where to begin!!!
which is extremely near!
I am going to continue to live with my parents, even after the wedding, until at least the Summer of '09 because I have yet to graduate and get my Bachelor's Degree.
Earlier, "A"'s parents weren't about to come to the wedding... but the sons 'A' and his elder bro 'R' had already earlier in year made plans to go to Pakistan to visit the parents, and so had saved up for a ticket... once the wedding plans came into existance, they decided to send their parents a ticket each, to come... instead of them using the same amount of money to go there.
They were like, they knew that their parents really wanted to be here for the wedding.
Gosh! there's so much that one can write about... but so little time, nor patience!
I mean there's so many 'firsts' that come with weddings...
for one, I'm going to be the first daughter-in-law in 'A's whole entire family!!!
Other firsts...
* talking to my mom-in-law-to-be for the first time... I had no idea what the proper etiquettes to such a conversation were... (my mom just said don't talk too much, and don't laugh out loud!) LOL
* talked to my dad-in-law-to-be unexpectedly
* i have a wedding registry now
www.macysweddingchannel.com
* i got my first diamond ring... (and i did not opt to get a solitaire... i've got ugly chubby fingers :S )
* i'm actually furnishing an apartment that i don't even live in!
Oh, and there's so much more! i don't even know where to begin!!!
The Meeting-- Part 2
Ok, so we were home now...
Right as I got out of my car... I started having a small breakdown!
I am extremely shy by nature and the thought of meeting a random guy for marriage was kind of making me freak out...
I don't want anyone to get the idea that this proposal etc. was done without my consent... I had given consent right from the start... in fact, I had approved this guy and so that's why my mom first started talking to 'A' back in March '08.
But, standing there, on my pavement outside my house... I sort of forgot about every positive thing... and it was just due to the fear of stepping into the unknown.
Alhamdulillah, I walked in... and umm... my dad totally of course, had to embarass me... and so I walk in and see 'A' and say 'Assalaam aleykum' and my dad's like, "So this is ***** **** (my full name), the daughter who is my 'humm shakal'..." which means look-alike in my language...
If that wasn't bad enough... I made sure I took a seat next to the window and parallel to the TV which was thankfully on, so that I could pretend to be distracted!
Anyhow, so yeah, I was sitting down and my dad looks at me and says, "you're allowed to look at him", I swear, I think I was hoping that there was a trap door under the couch and I could fall through! I was utterly embarassed!
Thankfully, my mom glared at my dad real big and he decided to quiet down... poor him, i could totally tell that he was VERY happy and excited, at that moment.
I wish I could say that this was the end of my embarassing moments for the day, but unfortunately it wasn't... my mom pulls out a photo album that 'A' had brought of him and his family and starts showing it to me... and i'm like, "God, it's full of his pics... i don't want to look like i'm staring at them...!!!" and i'm telling you, my mom started giving full-on commentaries at all the pics, it seemed! and i was like 'noooooooooooooo...'... hahaha
I love my parent, though :) Alhamdulillah, they do it all out of love <3
To sum up the day, I spent only like 20 mins downstairs with my family where 'A', my maternal grandma and parents were chit-chatting and then I spent the rest of the day in my room... at around noon, 'A' and my parents went out to lunch at an Indian/Chinese restaurant that we have over here and so that was the time that I came out of my room and actually got something to eat...
'A' had brought a huge cheesecake from 'The Cheesecake Factory' for my family and so I quickly ate that... also, my mom called and informed me that her aunt and uncle, who were visiting from Pakistan, would also be stopping by later in the evening and so I should put the cheesecake in a presentable cake platter...
The problem was, the cheesecake was getting kinda messy and I was running out of time... I'm telling you, I was seconds away from not making it back up the stairs when the front door opened!
The rest of the day went smooth and my parents had my sister finally come over and meet 'A' as well (traditionally, only the daughter that is to be wed is presented in front of a male suitor, at that time)...
The day was coming near to an end and it was time for Maghreb Salah... and my parents had 'A' lead the salaah so that I could sneak and hear his Qiraa'ah (recitation) which alhamdulillah was very good :)
Hmm... so this is all I have to report about the meeting...
'A' and I got informally engaged on that Sunday, when his parents called... my dad stopped me in the kitchen and asked me if i was ok with it and i just said, "yeah, i guess"... LOL...
so eloquent! :S
Right as I got out of my car... I started having a small breakdown!
I am extremely shy by nature and the thought of meeting a random guy for marriage was kind of making me freak out...
I don't want anyone to get the idea that this proposal etc. was done without my consent... I had given consent right from the start... in fact, I had approved this guy and so that's why my mom first started talking to 'A' back in March '08.
But, standing there, on my pavement outside my house... I sort of forgot about every positive thing... and it was just due to the fear of stepping into the unknown.
Alhamdulillah, I walked in... and umm... my dad totally of course, had to embarass me... and so I walk in and see 'A' and say 'Assalaam aleykum' and my dad's like, "So this is ***** **** (my full name), the daughter who is my 'humm shakal'..." which means look-alike in my language...
If that wasn't bad enough... I made sure I took a seat next to the window and parallel to the TV which was thankfully on, so that I could pretend to be distracted!
Anyhow, so yeah, I was sitting down and my dad looks at me and says, "you're allowed to look at him", I swear, I think I was hoping that there was a trap door under the couch and I could fall through! I was utterly embarassed!
Thankfully, my mom glared at my dad real big and he decided to quiet down... poor him, i could totally tell that he was VERY happy and excited, at that moment.
I wish I could say that this was the end of my embarassing moments for the day, but unfortunately it wasn't... my mom pulls out a photo album that 'A' had brought of him and his family and starts showing it to me... and i'm like, "God, it's full of his pics... i don't want to look like i'm staring at them...!!!" and i'm telling you, my mom started giving full-on commentaries at all the pics, it seemed! and i was like 'noooooooooooooo...'... hahaha
I love my parent, though :) Alhamdulillah, they do it all out of love <3
To sum up the day, I spent only like 20 mins downstairs with my family where 'A', my maternal grandma and parents were chit-chatting and then I spent the rest of the day in my room... at around noon, 'A' and my parents went out to lunch at an Indian/Chinese restaurant that we have over here and so that was the time that I came out of my room and actually got something to eat...
'A' had brought a huge cheesecake from 'The Cheesecake Factory' for my family and so I quickly ate that... also, my mom called and informed me that her aunt and uncle, who were visiting from Pakistan, would also be stopping by later in the evening and so I should put the cheesecake in a presentable cake platter...
The problem was, the cheesecake was getting kinda messy and I was running out of time... I'm telling you, I was seconds away from not making it back up the stairs when the front door opened!
The rest of the day went smooth and my parents had my sister finally come over and meet 'A' as well (traditionally, only the daughter that is to be wed is presented in front of a male suitor, at that time)...
The day was coming near to an end and it was time for Maghreb Salah... and my parents had 'A' lead the salaah so that I could sneak and hear his Qiraa'ah (recitation) which alhamdulillah was very good :)
Hmm... so this is all I have to report about the meeting...
'A' and I got informally engaged on that Sunday, when his parents called... my dad stopped me in the kitchen and asked me if i was ok with it and i just said, "yeah, i guess"... LOL...
so eloquent! :S
The Meeting
[Continued]
Soon, Sunday morning came and I called up my mom to see what was going on...
The previous night, my mom had told me that 'A' was supposed to come to our house for breakfast that morning at 9.
At this point, I asked my mom, " Will I be meeting him? Mom, you've GOT to let me know beforehand, I need to be mentally prepared!"... my mom just silenced me and said, "What kind of mental preparation do you need, and I don't know, his parents are going to call and if they offer a proposal then we'll call you over to meet him."
This sort of even made me more anxious, but I continued on with getting ready for the day, I had just finished brushing my teeth and my uncle's wife (who is neighbors with my grandma) was offering to make me something to eat for breakfast, i was way too nervous to want to eat, when my mom called again this time rushing and saying " *****, I'm coming over to pick you up! His parents called and asked for your hand... Make sure your grandma is also ready because I'm going to have her come and meet 'A' as well". And so that was that... well... umm... the problem is, I wasn't prepared... mentally, nor physically...!
I was still in my jammies, on an empty stomach and now trying to think what kind of impression I had wanted to make on 'A' and therefore what I should wear, from the 2 outfits that I had been able to smuggle out of my own house in a hurry.
I decided on wearing a pink shalwar suit because people tell me I look good in pink... but i hadn't realized that the shalwar (baggy pant) was kind of see-through!... and so I could not wear it... I called up mom and asked if I could come home and change... but mom said there wouldn't be enough time.
So thus, began the story of finding something to wear... i had a denim skirt with a long shirt... both, which I love... but my grandma was totally against me wearing that... well i guess, she may have been right... the skirt is super casual (kind of like cut-offs with thread hanging out of the bottom). And so she set out to look through her closet to see if she could find me something amongst her clothes, that I could wear... she pulled out a nice dark purple shalwar suit... but it turned out to be way too big for me...
Long story short, I ended up wearing my own shalwar suit, minus my own shalwar... the original outfit was pink but had black embroidered flowers on it and so I ended up borrowing a black shalwar to go with the kameez (top).
Another problem I had was, in the hurry, I had forgotten to remove the nailpolish I was wearing on my hands and feet! (i couldn't pray, and since i was going to an all-mahram household, i didn't pay much attention to removing the polish before leaving home!).
Once again, I begged mom to let me go up to my room and get properly ready when we got home, but she said, "No, we can't make him wait". My always co-operative mom seemed kind of tense to me that day! :(
Again, looong story short, I ended up borrowing black socks from my grandma as well. And then we finally arrived at my house...
[To be continued...]
Soon, Sunday morning came and I called up my mom to see what was going on...
The previous night, my mom had told me that 'A' was supposed to come to our house for breakfast that morning at 9.
At this point, I asked my mom, " Will I be meeting him? Mom, you've GOT to let me know beforehand, I need to be mentally prepared!"... my mom just silenced me and said, "What kind of mental preparation do you need, and I don't know, his parents are going to call and if they offer a proposal then we'll call you over to meet him."
This sort of even made me more anxious, but I continued on with getting ready for the day, I had just finished brushing my teeth and my uncle's wife (who is neighbors with my grandma) was offering to make me something to eat for breakfast, i was way too nervous to want to eat, when my mom called again this time rushing and saying " *****, I'm coming over to pick you up! His parents called and asked for your hand... Make sure your grandma is also ready because I'm going to have her come and meet 'A' as well". And so that was that... well... umm... the problem is, I wasn't prepared... mentally, nor physically...!
I was still in my jammies, on an empty stomach and now trying to think what kind of impression I had wanted to make on 'A' and therefore what I should wear, from the 2 outfits that I had been able to smuggle out of my own house in a hurry.
I decided on wearing a pink shalwar suit because people tell me I look good in pink... but i hadn't realized that the shalwar (baggy pant) was kind of see-through!... and so I could not wear it... I called up mom and asked if I could come home and change... but mom said there wouldn't be enough time.
So thus, began the story of finding something to wear... i had a denim skirt with a long shirt... both, which I love... but my grandma was totally against me wearing that... well i guess, she may have been right... the skirt is super casual (kind of like cut-offs with thread hanging out of the bottom). And so she set out to look through her closet to see if she could find me something amongst her clothes, that I could wear... she pulled out a nice dark purple shalwar suit... but it turned out to be way too big for me...
Long story short, I ended up wearing my own shalwar suit, minus my own shalwar... the original outfit was pink but had black embroidered flowers on it and so I ended up borrowing a black shalwar to go with the kameez (top).
Another problem I had was, in the hurry, I had forgotten to remove the nailpolish I was wearing on my hands and feet! (i couldn't pray, and since i was going to an all-mahram household, i didn't pay much attention to removing the polish before leaving home!).
Once again, I begged mom to let me go up to my room and get properly ready when we got home, but she said, "No, we can't make him wait". My always co-operative mom seemed kind of tense to me that day! :(
Again, looong story short, I ended up borrowing black socks from my grandma as well. And then we finally arrived at my house...
[To be continued...]
Saturday, August 2, 2008
Initially...
Ok so, it's a known fact that Dad was totally against me getting married to 'A'.
He had his reasons... they were something along the lines of...
* she's still in school
* she's too young, along with the usual, is she mature enuff?
* we don't know him/his family
* they sort of are from a different area and they sort of have a different
language and food, will she ever be able to adapt?
I'm sure there was a lot of other stuff going through his head...
Because, we all know, Dad can't go long without me...
I mean, ever since the day I was born, and when my mom realized she had worked so hard to give birth to a daughter that looked nothing like her, my dad has always taken some form of pride in having a daughter that looks like him.
My sister is neglected in no way either... though she's only a year younger, she is still the youngest in our family... that comes with perks, too!
So yeah, Dad has always been a little posessive about me...
Anyways, so after turning this poor guy down, almost twice!
A miracle happened and my dad agreed to meet him. There was definitely some forms of drama involved, but thank God it happened!
This might sound a little strange to some people, but because none of us had met him personally till yet, my sis and i thought that it'd be better for our parents to check him out before us. This also goes hand-in-hand with our religious beliefs...
And so, he arrived on May 24th, 2008 and my dad was super excited... right off the bat! He rushed to the airport to pick up 'A' and as soon as he saw him, he called my mom and said that he was impressed.
He was expected to have dinner with my parents and so my sister and I moved in with my grandma for the duration of the weekend...
'A' had dinner with my parents on the day he arrived, Saturday, and I called my mom at 11 pm to find out that he just left and so my mom was way too tired to talk to me and give me all the details!
I was feeling kind of anxious :S... I knew my dad had liked him, but was it enough for this to be headed towards something? I would soon find out.
[To be continued...]
He had his reasons... they were something along the lines of...
* she's still in school
* she's too young, along with the usual, is she mature enuff?
* we don't know him/his family
* they sort of are from a different area and they sort of have a different
language and food, will she ever be able to adapt?
I'm sure there was a lot of other stuff going through his head...
Because, we all know, Dad can't go long without me...
I mean, ever since the day I was born, and when my mom realized she had worked so hard to give birth to a daughter that looked nothing like her, my dad has always taken some form of pride in having a daughter that looks like him.
My sister is neglected in no way either... though she's only a year younger, she is still the youngest in our family... that comes with perks, too!
So yeah, Dad has always been a little posessive about me...
Anyways, so after turning this poor guy down, almost twice!
A miracle happened and my dad agreed to meet him. There was definitely some forms of drama involved, but thank God it happened!
This might sound a little strange to some people, but because none of us had met him personally till yet, my sis and i thought that it'd be better for our parents to check him out before us. This also goes hand-in-hand with our religious beliefs...
And so, he arrived on May 24th, 2008 and my dad was super excited... right off the bat! He rushed to the airport to pick up 'A' and as soon as he saw him, he called my mom and said that he was impressed.
He was expected to have dinner with my parents and so my sister and I moved in with my grandma for the duration of the weekend...
'A' had dinner with my parents on the day he arrived, Saturday, and I called my mom at 11 pm to find out that he just left and so my mom was way too tired to talk to me and give me all the details!
I was feeling kind of anxious :S... I knew my dad had liked him, but was it enough for this to be headed towards something? I would soon find out.
[To be continued...]
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