Patience is key...

Sometimes you just have to kick yourself and just move on... and try not to trip over your own dumb mistakes.

Lol, so I know the type of things that I should NOT be doing while conversing with people, particularly my husband... especially when talking over a subject of debate.

And yet, what do I do? I drag myself into murky waters, with no flashlight :P

Yeah, so people... do not jump the gun and talk about stuff that is not directly pertaining to what you are going through now...

Ugh, meaning don't talk/discuss/argue something that'll happen in the future. The topics in this list could include stuff like future baby names, for example.

I brought up a more important topic, but at an irrelevant time.

There's a time for everything and so it's important to be patient.

But at the same time, don't be afraid to open a can of worms at the right time. That is, that if something is bothering you then you should bring it up... unless it's something which is very trivial and you could live with it for the rest of your marriage.

Opening a can of worms could be good for your marriage.

Like I have previously said, studies back the notion that it's ok to argue because that does not ruin a marriage... Rather, it's the WAY you argue which can ruin a marriage.

My husband and I hardly ever argue... but when we do, it can get intense and there's tears etc. but alhamdulillah we ALWAYS come out stronger because we keep talking, then take a break to think (since we're upset) and then we come back to the argument. Sometimes we'll quit the argument plenty of times because we're still upset but then we'll always come back and ask each other how we can resolve it. Also we try to explain, in a different way, our points of view. So keep at something that really means something to you until both of you can reach a happy medium.

At the same time, don't push things out of proportion. Discuss only important things in such depth. Don't pass derogatory comments. Be respectful, listen, be patient and remember above all... this is YOUR marriage so make it work :)

And, try not to trip over your own mistakes.